Update #4 by David at 12:18 pm on Wed 3/11/2026 If you'd kindly pray with me for a softened heart -- things were better but we’ve hit some nasty bumps — I knew it would be a few months (3 - 6) to get things in order, but I was counting on her attending home group and church with me like she promised — we need to come to some agreements about taking money without asking from my accounts… It’s NOT about the money but keeping the commandments of God, 1 Cor 7:19... Also, told you the bad, I'll tell you the good -- I'm generous and she doesn't need to "take" anything -- God's supplied our needs and she has "maintenance" that would make most women here very envious of her...
There's a 12 hrs difference from where banking is centered, i.e. — I have to stay up hours at night trying to move money from one bank, costing $### some times and she keeps springing (new loans) on me… Two times last week I had to be up to 6AM to avoid missing a payment, bouncing a check, (one bank doesn’t open until 3AM our time).
The bigger concern is it is pilfering, and it is not respecting her husband’s position, requests or money. It is “pilfering,” which does not have a good biblical precedent (Judas used to pilfer), and out to be avoided at all costs, Ex 20, Prov 30, but rather John Baptist, Jesus, Paul, James, Peter all enjoin “thankfulness,” “contentment” and “honesty.”
Please pray for our home group leaders — one hurt his foot and was questioning having the “biblical marriage” home group — I offered to get a cab, help him down stairs, into vehicle, out of vehicle and assist with even lowering a stretcher through the roof (if needed)… He’s under attack — he and his wife have been praying for her also… Please pray he is strengthened, healed empowered to lead, pray, intercede and teach. Authority over demons for us both and his leader. God’s order.
My wife has been gone 6 days now with my son at her mother’s — there is only one sister in her family who is hones and godly — she admits she is stubborn, immature, childish, unteachable and in “gross error."
I ask all the curses and demons be broken off her life, "for stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry, and rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft” Samuel told Saul, 1 Sam 15…
I ask for a humble and quiet spirit like Peter mentions regarding Sarah in 1 Pet 3 and more love for her, Eph 5, and, yes, respect not for me — but for the position of authority as ordained by God. Believe me I do not “Lord it over her or my son — merely ask she put at least a seatbelt on since she refuses a car seat, tell me what she needs, not take it and then make me do “surprise banking miracles for 6-9 hrs, literally, between 9PM and 6AM my time (Have a bank on on 50th state).
Please take authority over the devil with me, Eph 6:10-11, 12; James 4:7, 1 Peter 5:8-9. Let’s resist him as the church. I was tempted to look at illicit stuff last night first time in 5 months but listened to the Harmony of The Gospels on Youversion Bible App, prayed, and realized I hadn’t slept in 21 hrs before the “sudden and vehement temptation” struck. Clearly the devil. Thank God for the way of escape, 1 Cor 10:13…
It isn’t good for man to be alone, Gen 2:18, especially here as an American, and we should only separate when mutually agreed upon, and for the purpose of prayer and fasting, and come back together soon lest we be tempted, see 1 Cor 7:5. Grant me more time in prayer, the Word, and fruit, gifts and power. Jesus didn’t confront Judas, just let him fulfill prophecy and go to hell, better to have not been born He says…
Also, when He was angry, grieved at their hard hearts, Mk 3:15 — he does a miracle… I want to be like that… Mk 3:16...
Thank you in Jesus’ Name
"Do not deprive each other, except by mutual consent and for a time, so you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again, so that Satan will not tempt you through your lack of self-control,” 1 Cor 7:5.
Original Prayer Request
Father, thank You Nothing is too difficult for You. Please Change My Wife's Heart: Let her forgive me for having bad timing and anger at her betrayal, lying, stealing... I ask You, Father, she repents & we "Stay Together..."
We Submit to God, Resist the Devil, so he FLEES from us, James 4:7, 1 PET 5:8. WE ASK YOU SOFTEN HER, we pray for Her, OUR SON, Me, her Mom and Family... Also calm my emotions over the betrayals and being angry and grieved at their hardness of her heart," Mk 3:15, in me subsides... I tried to reconcile before dinner, during dinner, and before bed... Mentioned the 7 times a day, Matt 18:22...
So the phrase, "Two steps forward, one step backwards" is one way to illustrate where we are right now... I think it's more like three steps forward, two steps backward, honestly...
Everything was going well after the visit from our home group leaders (she had skipped home group Friday -- they gave us a home visit and we went to a Seminar the next day, had dinner, went to church Sunday and on way back from church she tells me she is going to her mothers two (2) hrs away for her mom's birthday our Tues (Monday, USA). I couldn't believe it... She said I could come, I went, and here's were it gets messy...
Went to wife’s mother’s for her birthday — was “pitched” as list of things to do "for me" how it was — I just went to be with my son. It’s a matriarchal household w/ her Dad treated so poorly he is rarely present… Anyway, I suggested instead of a cake we buy something memorable (since her sisters would most likely buy her one (and they did). I figured we’d buy some earings or something equivalent to the price of a cake — WRONG...
She picked out something for $350 and an “Engagement Ring” (since she had sold hers and her wedding band last June or August)..
I had just spent $200 on her loan (I.E. -- failed business I said to not start) then she wants ANOTHER $200.
Told her privately I didn’t appreciate her keeping all spare change (Always grant her requests for our needs plus a little extra, ensures she has newer clothes, lives in a nice place, etc). She took it public outside & twisted it — shared how the $9000 was wasted and now an extra $400 a month is owed on a failed business. She denied it, got angry, I admittedly told her she was lying to my face, mentioned "bearing false witness," and "stealing."
Then she said I had to leave and she mentioned calling the police. Then her mom said I could stay and eat, and her sister said talk things over when we have cooler heads. She refused my humility and asking forgivness and recommendation to stay together for the sake of the child, mentioned she blew a lot of money on a bad investment that I'm still paying on and just asked she'd admit it -- saying she stays with family and keeps my son?
God, I heard You say, "lead the way," but I'm seemingly unable or not permitted... This is not over as I said it would be several months to stabilize... I ask for truth to prevail, for a chance to be merciful, BUT FOR REPENTANCE SO SHE STOPS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF ME... Also, give me BETTER TIMING, WISDOM, PATIENCE, PROTECTION from TEMPTATION, SIN, EVIL, EVIL PEOPLE and THE EVIL ONE (Lk 11:4, Matt 6:13, Zeph 3:13, 2 Thes 3:2, John 17:15). PRESERVE ME O LORD, for in YOU I TAKE REFUGE, Ps 16:1... Thank you, in JESUS' NAME I pray, Amen